I am not a victim, are you? I refuse to believe that I have to accept things that are not beneficial to my life. When I think of acceptance I think of the serenity prayer.
I am praying to God daily that I do not over stress or worry about anything. Nothing on this earth is worth my peace. What I have learned from my own life and from the observation of others is that people are going to do what they want to do. I will always try to make a suggestion to those in my life but if they do not want to listen then what ever happens is on them. I am not going to beg nor plead for any one to take advice or instruction. I have learned not to beg a man to stay with me either. (I learned the hard way, I had to accept that if it is not meant to be to let it go. The struggle was real SMH. (HINT: Keep reading, there is a Nori Moment below…))
I used to lose sleep and weight when I would try to change the things that I knew I couldn’t or shouldn’t change. The sad part is this is when I used to get the most compliments on losing weight years ago.
Nori you look so good, how did you lose weight… blah blah blah. I should’ve told they ass, I lost weight by worrying, crying, working and going straight to sleep with a side of cramps.
Of course people don’t know things are going wrong in your life unless you tell them and at that time in my life I wasn’t telling nobody nothing. Now, I let go and let God. I truly believe and know that is the best way.
My mentor used to say, “People will let a job over work them, let their children stress them out, be almost dead and in the hospital and those same people will barely miss them if they die”. People are selfish and only look out for themselves. You have to take care of yourself and sometimes that means putting self care first.
This is not to lump everyone together. There are some people with good hearts that genuinely care about others. DISCLAIMER: There are some people who are having a hard time in life and are in a funk, try your best to know the difference. Some people you cut off and others you just take a step back from for a while until they get their ish together. If when you check back in and if their life is still a mess you might want to stay away and not welcome the chaos back into your life.
Simply put, live your best life there is no time for haters, you only get one life. You do not have to accept negativity. You do not have to accept other people problems as your own. Do not let folks stress you to death (literally). Oh and a hater can be your mamma, sister, best friend since the 5th grade, and next door neighbor. No matter who it is, if people are constantly bringing you down then you have to let them go or love them from a distance.
Accept that there are some things and folks you can not change and keep it moving.
Nori Moment: One time I was dating this guy and he broke up with me out the blue (he broke my heart, it was the worse pain I had ever felt). There were no signs of trouble, we had never had a argument or anything. I literally did not see the break-up coming. He came over my house early one morning and broke up with me. I was devastated for a long time and it took me a long time to get over him. I was talking to my Pastor one day and I was telling him what happened. The next thing that came out of his mouth blew me away. He said, “Honey if he wanted you, if he wanted to be with you he would be. That man is not with you because he don’t want to be with you. Once you accept that you can move on with your life.”
*Whew that Nori Moment hit you right in the gut didn’t it?